My earliest memory of being completely embarrassed was way back in kindergarten. I had a thing for the older types of women, and my crush, the 1st grader Sydney, was my type of woman. So when I meandered on up to her, gave her my popcorn, and asked if she wanted to race me, you can only imagine how shattered my little heart was when she let out an emphatic, “NO! I don’t race little boys.”
There was also the first time I ever tried learning to surf at a local beach my sophomore year of high school. It was a disaster waiting to happen; I had board shorts on that were way too big for me, there were a million people at the beach, and I had never surfed, did I mention that? Long story short, I fell off my board, my shorts fell off of me, and I was known as the creepy naked dude who couldn’t surf.
Just yesterday I tried making a chicken caesar wrap, I figured, “Hey I’m a shitty cook let’s start out with something easy.” Apparently, I should’ve started with something easier like a salad or toast, because I completely fucked up my caesar wrap too.
I try to fail everyday at something I want to be good at, and it makes dating so much easier. When I see a woman who I think looks fun and I might want to get to know, I go up and tell her. If I get rejected, it’s no big deal, I fail at something everyday anyway right? So many people are afraid of going after what they want because of that little voice in your head that’s wrapped it’s rope around you and is trying to pull you away from anything that may be somewhat nerve-wracking, and that’s totally normal.
Rejection is rejection, nothing more or less. If you go up to someone, and ask them out, or get shut down talking to them, whatever it’s no big deal you both move on with your lives. When I first started going up to random people and trying to talk to them it was the biggest deal in the world to me. I thought they were going to think I was weird and maybe my body would just explode from how awkward everything would be. Lo and behold I didn’t explode, what a twist.
Next time you see someone you want to get to know, just go up and say “Hi.” I promise nothing horrible is going to happen, the person you’re talking to isn’t going to take a picture of you and frame it on their wall and laugh at you every morning because they remember how awkward the whole situation was (actually they might). Once you get over that anxiety of just randomly introducing yourself to people, it doesn’t matter if you’re interested in them or not, everything else gets easier. You’re doing something mentally challenging and getting over that block, helps in so many other areas of life. I’m not talking to just guys here either, ladies if you see a guy you want, go up to him tell him he looked interesting and you wanted to meet him, it’ll probably turn out great. So please, go out this weekend and get rejected, get turned down, and “fail” I bet you’ll have some excellent stories, and a great weekend.