I casually mentioned once that Tinder is the most fun I’ve had on my miserable iPhone in a long time, and now that I’m an expert swiper—and even have a few “Tin-dates” under my belt—I’d like to help the gentlemen out there make the most out of it.
Tin-Do: Say “hi.”
Just like in real life, women like it when men open the conversation. Just because this is the digital world doesn’t mean you can be completely lazy. Not to mention, most girls I know have been told somewhere along the line that guys don’t like girls who message first. It may or may not be true, but it’s definitely something girls take into consideration.
Tin-Don’t: Immediately ask what my SnapChat is.
Everyone knows SnapChat is for naked selfies. Even if a girl is 100% down to bang a stranger or engage in some ill-advised naked documentation, you need to lay a small foundation first.
Tin-Do: Say more than “hi.”
Hi is a great opening line, but it will likely only earn you a “hi” or maybe a “hi, how are you” in return. Not exactly opening the door for stimulating conversation. With “hi,” say something to spark dialog. You liked her picture with the baby tiger? Cool, ask her about traveling. You think she has pretty eyes? Compliments never hurt anyone either.
Tin-Don’t: Be a pen pal.
Personally, I’m on Tinder to meet cool new people and see what happens. But even if I was a) boyfriend hunting or b) hump-happy, I would still at some point in the early stages of conversation want to be asked out. Let’s grab a beer or a coffee. It’s weird to always be texting/messaging with someone you haven’t actually met.
Tin-Do: Eventually move on to a phone number exchange.
For one, the Tinder message app freaking sucks. And for two, it’s lame to plan a second date via Tinder.
Tin-Don’t: Use only pictures of yourself in a hat and sunglasses.
I will assume you are bald and eyeless.
Ladies, what do you think—did I miss any of your Tinder pet-peeves?
Don’t be a Tin-Douche,