I get it. Things come up that may require you to cancel a date at the last-minute. And although I’d like to believe that there is absolutely nothing more important in the world than getting to know me, I am realistic that such a level of devotion may require more than a one-time meeting. However, how you go about canceling said date, will make the difference between whether or not the person you are canceling on accepts your offer for a rain check.
Allow me to provide you with an example. (And, at this time, I’d like to give a big thank you to the gentleman who canceled on me tonight and thus provided me with this excellent blog fodder. You sir, are a gem.).
The wrong way to cancel a date:
• Make me contact you first - When I hadn’t heard from this boy by 3 PM, I was already annoyed. Call me crazy, but I like to plan and we had not previously set a venue for our date. So, I had to send him a text asking him if we were still on. Fail Point #1.
• Ask for a rain check via text – If you are canceling a date, pick up the damn phone. That way the person on the other end can hear just how genuinely sorry you are that you can’t make it. Fail Point #2
• Forget to say you’re sorry – I feel like this is a duh. You made plans. Now you are breaking them. This necessitates and apology. No ifs, ands, or butts. Fail Point #3
• Blame the people above you at work for dumping everything on you - All this does is remind me that you are low on the totem pole. In fact, feel free to send me the names and numbers of the guys dumping all this work on you. Perhaps they are more my speed. Fail Point #4
• Don’t text me again, still sans apology, if I haven’t responded to your original text – Hi, I am annoyed. Texting me again with “blahhh this sucks” just makes you seem whiny. And really, still no apology?? Fail Point #5
Now, you may have picked up on the fact that I am pissed. This is true. I am thoroughly annoyed. But it’s not because the young sir canceled the date. It was the way he went about it. Had he texted me earlier in the day when he first saw work piling up, that would have been nice. Then, had he picked up the phone and actually spoken with me about the situation, I would have been much more understanding. While on the phone we could have made future plans, he could have let me know he was genuinely sorry, and I wouldn’t have had to write this blog post. Really, it would have been that simple.
So, dear friends, should you ever find yourself in this unfortunate situation, I’d recommend canceling your date the right way. Unless, of course, you never want to see the girl again. Then by all means, take some pointers from the awesome guy above.